Why and when counselling is necessary

Do you feel that people only with mental disorders go to a counsellor? That is not correct and absolutely a misconception. Even a person without any disorder has to go to a counsellor if the situation warrants. In this article, you will be able to know what counselling is, who need it and many misconceptions associated with the term counselling.

We all have heard about counselling. Often after the results of different entrance examinations are out, the respective examination boards fix the dates of counselling for the students who wish to enrol for the courses. However, this counselling is not the same as that of a student who visits the counsellor to find ways to bring back her/his concentration on studies.

Many have a misconception about counselling, they think only people with mental disorders go to a counsellor to get rid of the disorder. While counselling is a part of the healing process of certain mental disorders, people who do not have any kind of mental disorder can also visit a counsellor if the situation demands.

Who Requires Counselling

Now the most pertinent question that is coming to your mind is who requires counselling? Almost anybody who is facing a nagging problem but unable to come out of it despite trying a lot. These problems may be physical, mental, behavioural issues, emotional disturbances and many more that directly affect daily productivity.

What Is Counselling

Counselling can be broadly defined as a process through which the help seeker can explore the issues that caused the problems and simultaneously find ways through which a realistic solution to the problems can be arrived at.

Is Counseling A Set of Advice

Certainly not! There are many misconceptions surrounding counselling and this is one of them. The counsellor never advises the help seeker, rather helps the person in need to have more clarity on the problems by discussing and analyzing the problems in details so that the person her/himself can come to a realistic solution to their problems. During the whole process, a few tasks can be given, the counsellor can even ask the counselee to try out a few things but there is no advice in the process.

Can Friends Or Well-Wishers Help You Out

You can say you have well-wishers and good friends who advise you during any difficulties but hang on! They are undoubtedly very important in our lives and always come to our help when required, but they are not professional therapists who can go deeper into your problems and analyze how adversely the problems can impact your daily life. Another important thing is friends and well-wishers know us very well, they know our certain habits, which can be termed as bad habits and therefore may not show interest to listen to certain problems and they may also give a biased opinion because of this. It is always advisable to talk freely to a person who doesn't know anything about you and will provide an unbiased opinion.

The Healing Powers Of Supportive Listening

Talking has healing powers. Yes, we all want to be heard. Nowadays, most of the people remain busy on the social networking platforms posting updates and commenting on the others' status. This is also communication, in the form of texts. Text communication has its own limitations and when you find something is not going in your way, you want someone to listen to you. Not only listening but supportive and patient listening. A professional counsellor is always non-judgemental and will support your viewpoint too. This support is itself an assurance which helps in the healing process.

Why People Avoid Counselling

Our lives have become faster; we have to deal with many things and at times can become confused. The complexities of life itself can create some problems that need our immediate attention. While most of us are concerned about physical pains and discomforts, many people seldom care about the issues related to mental behaviour. They think they can manage it themselves and it will be healed automatically with time. In our society, there is a stigma attached to mental problems and there are people who look down on others suffering from mental disorders. There are people also who find it uncomfortable to discuss their personal problems with others. There are many social or religious issues that hold them back to seek professional help and all these things are compounding the problems all over the world.

A study indicates that more than 60% of people having some kind of mental disorder never seek professional help. If you live with the problem, the problem is bound to increase. If you are still contemplating whether to visit a professional counsellor to seek help, I would say don't wait. Go out immediately to consult a professional who can help you out before the problem goes out of your hand.

What To Expect From The Counselling Sessions

We all want very fast results, whether it is at our workplace or our own illness. One thing you must note and that is counselling cannot work like a magic. It takes some time because you and your counsellor both are working jointly to sort out the problems. At times, parents and immediate family members also come in the picture on the instruction of the counsellor to sort out the problems and it becomes a joint effort in those cases. After a couple of counselling sessions, you will start to notice the results. Slowly things will change and you will be able to find ways to cope up with the problems.

If there is no improvement at all after a number of sessions, you need to think of some alternatives and possibly you have to consult another professional.

Points To Remember

While it is important to consult a doctor for any physical difficulties, there may be certain conditions for which you need to consult a psychological counsellor. Unable to handle an emotional state is not any mental disorder, neither is a lack of concentration on studies. In both of these cases, a counsellor can help you to sort out the problems. In all these cases what you require is a realistic analysis of all your problems. At times the solution to many of these problems may be hidden inside the difficulties which the counsellor may help to point out. So, when you are unable to handle the situation yourself, go and seek the help of a professional.

Article by Sankalan Bhattacharya
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Author: K Mohan22 Sep 2019 Member Level: Platinum   Points : 3

Very good article from the author. We all know that persons with mental disabilities need counselling but these days the elders are most disturbed as the children are away from them and not calling even once for many days together. One of my neighbour who is 75-year-old lost his wife. When his daughter in the US was contacted to rush back for the cremation and rituals, she said she could not and that affected the old man too much and he became depressed. So such kind of persons need immediate counselling.

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