Understanding the reasons why some children are unwilling to go to school

In this article, I am discussing some important reasons why children are unwilling to go to school and how parents and teachers can understand these reasons.

The school is a sacred institution of learning, and the children impart knowledge in schools. They not only acquire knowledge but also develop essential skills to become competent members of society. But some children are not willing to go to school. Toddlers who are enrolled in nurseries are usually not willing to go to school. But sometimes, even secondary-school students are not ready to go to school. So, parents become worried about their kids. Parents and teachers should resolve the issue with mutual understanding.

Reasons why the kids are not willing to go to school

Separation anxiety

Toddlers who are joining playgroups or nurseries commonly experience separation anxiety. They have lived comfortably with their parents for three years and are unable to adapt to a new environment. Toddlers are usually too anxious to be separated from their mothers and are not willing to approach a mentor or teacher. If a kid is living in an isolated locality and is not frequently surrounded by other children, then they cannot easily adjust to the surroundings when they see several other kids like them. Some children are constantly nurtured and pampered by their parents. During the day, they are only spending time with their parents. Such kids cannot easily become adaptable and are unwilling to go to school. So, your kid should always be surrounded by friends, neighbours, or other kids in the locality. They learn to play together and perform activities in groups.

Out of the comfort zone

At home, the kids are served whatever they want. They can watch videos on smartphones, iPads, laptops, etc. anytime. They never share playthings with anyone, as they are not surrounded by anyone. Many kids do not have siblings and do not share with anyone. But in nurseries or schools, they cannot play exclusively. Many kids are not aware of group activities and cannot easily mingle with other kids. So, when they realize they cannot enjoy the comforts of school, they become insecure. So, such kids are not willing to go to school. Parents should teach their children to share with everyone. Do not force a child to share, but instead lovingly suggest giving someone something. If a parent is open-minded and shares, then a child automatically imbibes this virtue. Parents should also inculcate discipline among children and teach the value of time. If a kid is enjoying liberty indiscriminately at home, then he or she is unable to adjust to the environment. Even at the foundational stage, a kid is taught to be disciplined and follow rules. A child should even be assigned easy tasks so he learns to become independent.

After the pandemic situation

Many children, including those in secondary school, are unable to adjust to the school curriculum after the pandemic situation. During the period of lockdown, they sat comfortably on a cushioned chair and did class assignments. They were not supervised by teachers, nor were they compelled to complete assignments within the specified time. They did not take the exam seriously but were promoted to the next class for two years. While studying, many kids even watched funky videos on their smartphones. They did not wake up hastily in the morning nor get ready to go to school. No assemblies were conducted in the morning. So, they lived comfortably at home, although they could not go outdoors. But when they started going to school regularly, they were not at ease. They considered their studies to be a burden. Even secondary school students were not happy to follow the rules and regulations of the school. Understanding the psychology of students, parents should help the child cope with the school curriculum. They should gradually inculcate discipline and improve habits so they can adapt to the curriculum again. Some children are not writing in a speedy manner due to a lack of practice. Some children are not able to read fluently. So, observing carefully the weaker aspects of children, they should inculcate proper practices.

Unwillingness of special children

Your child may be suffering from disorders such as ADHD, autism, processing disorders, dyslexia, etc. You can identify such problems when you send your child to nurseries or playgroups. Such kids are not able to interact with other kids or mentors easily. So, they cannot easily adapt to the environment. If your child is not able to speak or is only using finite words, then he or she is probably autistic. A child feels suppressed when he is not able to express his feelings. If your child has ADHD, he or she is not able to sit down calmly in one place. Such kids need to constantly fidget or loiter around. Your child may not understand oral instructions due to a lack of language development. So, when he or she is not able to grasp information in a proper way, he or she becomes frustrated and is unable to express feelings.

Problem with school authorities, teachers, or students

A child may not express openly his or her feelings towards school, school authorities, or other students. Some children are unable to express themselves if their parents are not open-minded. Some parents are busy using their smartphones, iPads, or other devices to earn money or interact with someone. Such parents do not carefully listen to the problems of their kids. A child sometimes cannot express his or her feelings towards parents if they are too sentimental. Some parents even argue or enter into a conflict with school authorities if the child addresses any problem. So even such children do not interact with their parents. So, a parent should always be emotionally mature to listen to the problems of a child. They should listen to the problems carefully and seek a solution, but not lose their temper. A child is sometimes unwilling to go to school because he or she is experiencing problems with someone and yet is not able to express feelings.


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